How to Make Someone Fall for You Online

How to make your online dating experience a success

Keep It Clean

We cannot stress this one enough! If you’re looking for a relationship and not a one-night stand, you need to present yourself as a respectable adult. As tempting as it may be to let your conversation veer off into the gutter, save that kind of talk for an appropriate time in a loving and respectful relationship.

Video Chat

Chatting online is great but you can really enhance the experience if you both have a webcam. This way you can see them laugh and hear their voice. Schedule Skype dates and get to know each other face-to-face, well, screen-to-screen anyway!

Present Yourself Well

It’s tempting to put your best “assets” on display in your profile pictures, but remember that sometimes less is more. Conner Reinhold, an attractive 27-year-old graphic designer tried online dating and said “I was really surprised by how many of the women on dating sites have trashy pictures up... if I was looking for a party girl that shows too much of her body, I’d keep going to the bars. I’m looking for someone to spend my life with, not spend the night”

Meet Them Casually

If enough time has passed and you feel comfortable meeting this person, just relax. A lot of people stress out about the big “face to face” with their online match but it doesn’t have to be complicated. Meet for coffee at at a local cafe and talk for a while, then when the date is over, part ways and let that be enough for your first meeting.

Take Your Time

Because the relationship is developed online, it could take a little longer to get close. Don’t get impatient, just keep trying and devote the appropriate amount of time to the other person. Who knows? This could be the one.

Stay Positive

Even if you’re already comfortable with the person, you should be careful about how much negativity you are bringing into your conversations. Try to start breaking the habit of complaining and don’t bring up what you think was wrong in your past relationships unless they ask you to.

Flirt

Flirting online might seem a little bit more difficult than flirting in person but it’s certainly worth the results. Let the person know that you are attracted to them and that you are interested by sending them flirty messages like “I can’t get over how beautiful you are” or “I really wish you were here.” These might seem cheesy but these little comments help develop some intimacy and they really work.

Pay Attention

This is often presented as something a woman favors but guys like it when you pay attention to what they’ve said. Become a good listener. Remember the details he shares with you and show him you’ve been interested in him by bringing up those details where they would apply.

Be Yourself

In the dating world, one of the most important things you can do is be yourself. Online dating is a little more intense than local dating. You have to put more of yourself out there and you have to make a greater effort depending on how far away your date lives. This could be the best experience of your life but that’s the key, it’s YOUR life. Be yourself.

Carry A Conversation

You will probably be chatting a lot so you need to be able to carry on a good conversation. Keep it interesting and light-hearted as often as possible. Try to avoid talking too much about work or anything that is very technical unless it is one of their interests as well.

Don't Lie

It might seem tempting to fabricate details of your life, especially if you are not where you’d like to be right now. But for the good of the relationship, don’t fall for that temptation! You owe it to yourself and your potential matches to stay honest from the beginning.

Make Them Laugh

Ladies, they say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. This is only part of the truth because his funny bone will get you there faster! And men, remember that everyone loves to laugh. Women have trouble committing to a guy with no sense of humor so if you want to sweep her off her feet, make sure you use some well-placed jokes to help you do it.